Mothers prone to anxiety are likely to be harsh if father isn't supportive
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Mothers prone to anxiety are more likely to be harsh parents if the father is not supportive

By Child & Family Blog Editor and , | March 2020 

Study has found that mothers prone to anxiety, stress, guilt and frustration are more likely to be harsh parents if the father is not supportive.

Mothers who are prone to anxiety, nervousness, stress, guilt, frustration and anger are likely to be harsher parents to their children only if the father is not supportive of their parenting, according to a study of 182 dual-earner couples in Ohio, USA.

This is perhaps not surprising. In the presence of an undermining coparent, an anxious and frustrated mother is unlikely to handle parenting well. Conversely, a supportive coparent can mitigate the impact of the mother’s difficulties, allowing her to parent without being harsh and intrusive.

The study did not find the influence the other way round. There was no link between a father being prone to anxiety and stress and his parenting, either when the mother was supportive of him or not.

Earlier research shows that harsh parenting – angry, hostile, intrusive and controlling  is associated with poorer child development. On this basis, the researchers recommend that those who support families should address not only the mother’s personality, but the coparenting relationships in her family. If a mother is prone to anxietyher partner may need more help to perform a positive coparenting role.

The parents in this research, however, were a nonclinical sample, without high needs. The levels of undermining coparenting and harsh intrusive parenting among them were low, though there was ample variability on each measure. They were married, dual-earner, different-sex couples who were the biological parents of the children75% of the mothers and 65% of the fathers had a university degree, and 86% were white.

Researchers use the term “neuroticism” to describe the combined tendencies towards anxiety, nervousness, stress, guilt, frustration and anger. Neuroticism was measured in both mothers and fathers during the third trimester of pregnancy. They were asked to rate statements like “I feel inferior to others”, “I often feel tense and jittery” and “I often feel helpless and want someone else to solve my problems”.

Coparenting was assessed later, when the baby was three months old, by observing parents changing the baby’s onesie together. The parents were asked to divide the task of removing the onesie and putting the new one on between them. Supportive coparenting was measured by the degree to which the parents helped each other with their respective tasks, displayed affection to each other and took pleasure in watching the other interact with the baby. Undermining coparenting is characterized by the opposite: criticism, disparagement, competition for the child’s attention and disregarding the other parent’s competence or authority.

Finally, the quality of individual parenting was assessed when the baby was nine months old. Each parent was asked to play separately with the child for five minutes, using either a shape sorter or stacking rings. Intrusiveness is characterized by the parent being more self-centred than child centred, and by a failure to understand and recognize the child’s effort to gain autonomy. Harshness is characterized by being abrupt with the child and calling the child names.

These findings did not fully back earlier research showing a direct association between a mother’s neuroticism and her harsh intrusive parenting. There is much less research on fathers ,and the results of earlier research on paternal neuroticism and harsh parenting are inconclusive – some finds a link, some does not.

This suggests more research is needed on fathers, which could lead to a similar recommendation as for mothers: when services find a father prone to neuroticism, the mother should be given help to be a supportive coparent.


 Zvara BL, Altenburger LE, Lang SN & Schoppe-Sullivan SJ (2019), The role of coparenting in the association between parental neuroticism and harsh intrusive parenting, Journal of Family Psychology, 33.8

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